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VIGILIA

No One Notices What You Carry

You have looked after people for years. It has not been remarked on, and at some point you stopped expecting it to be.

What is usually behind it

  • Care work is invisible by design — done well, it looks like nothing happened
  • The people who would have noticed are gone, or are the ones being cared for
  • A long habit of not mentioning it, which eventually makes it unmentionable
  • Being told your reward is elsewhere, which is not the same as being seen now

These are common states, not a diagnosis. If something here is affecting your health, your sleep or your safety, please speak to a doctor or a qualified professional where you live.

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